TAKLING = CARING = LOVING = Teaching Empathy

Many of us are concerned how to raise our children. What messages do you pass along to your kids in these politically vulnerable times? 

After doing some research, I came across an excellent article in Parenting Science by Gwen Dewar, Ph.D.  (© 2009 - 2014 Gwen Dewar, Ph.D., all rights reserved)

I am sharing with you what I found very helpful and give you guidance how to talk to your young ones.   

Here are some tips for teaching empathy - tips inspired by scientific research:

Research suggests that empathy is a complex phenomenon involving several component skills:

·         A sense of self-awareness and the ability to distinguish one's own feelings from the feelings of others

·          Taking another person’s perspective (or, alternatively, "putting oneself in another person's shoes")

·         Being able to regulate one's own emotional responses

Teaching empathy tip #1: Address your child’s own needs, and teach him how to “bounce back" from distress

Teaching empathy tip #2: Be “mind-minded” parent- Treat children as individuals with minds of their own, and talk to them about the ways that our feelings influence our behavior

Teaching empathy tip #3: Seize everyday opportunities to model—and induce—sympathetic feelings for other people.

Teaching empathy tip #4: Help kids discover what they have in common with other people. 

Teaching empathy tip #5: Teach kids about the hot-cold empathy gap.

Teaching empathy tip #6: Help kids explore other roles and perspectives.

Teaching empathy tip #7: Show kids how to “make a face" while they try to imagine how someone else feels. 

Teaching empathy tip #8: Help kids develop a sense of morality that depends on internal self-control, not on rewards or punishments.

Teaching empathy tip #9: Teach (older) kids about mechanisms of moral disengagement.

Teaching empathy tip #10: Inspire good feelings (and boost oxytocin levels) through pleasant social interactions and physical affection.

For more go to:  http://www.parentingscience.com/teaching-empathy-tips.html